Understanding Your Child's Personality
Just because kids are young, it does not mean they are all the same and what works for one will work for the other. As parents, it is important for you to try to identify the personalities of your kids and approach them in accordance with their needs and attitudes. You must bear in mind that your kid has a unique personality trait that will remain consistent throughout life. Trying to understand your child’s personality type can explain a lot about their vision on different things in life and their approach towards any challenges.
Here are some of the common personalities found in children:
Your child might be a bit slow to warm up and enjoys observing rather than participating. A wallflower child is shy and apprehensive about any unfamiliar terrain. New and unknown situations make her anxious so be patient with her and give her time to feel comfortable
How to deal:
- Don't push her into new circumstances abruptly but give her time to take baby steps
- Allow her to lean on you and let her know you are right there.
- Prepare her for anything new, so that she can make herself ready for what is to come: be it a new dog, relative or a new playmate
- Respect her space and personality. Don't feel like you need to push her towards something or someone. Let her stay in her bubble and see her unravel at her own sweet time.
The Zen Child
If there ever is a chill kid, he has to be the zen child. He's a pleasure to raise, with his calm, easy going, sunny disposition. However, every personality has shades, and it is important to remember that it is not required for a zen child to be calm at all time and even they can have a weak moment.
How to deal:
- It is okay for a zen child to get angry or act out too. Don't treat it like an abnormality, just because such meltdowns are rare.
- Be intuitive of your zen child. Just because he is calm and not too demanding, don't let his needs and feeling be overlooked.
- Join in his mellow playtimes and dig deeper into his personality. It is easier to let the quiet child play by themselves, but this may make them feel left out too.
Not the ones to hold on their feelings, the little spitfires are joyful, energetic and expressive of their emotions. They will clearly let you know if they like something or when he is unhappy.
How to deal:
- Anticipate tantrums and meltdowns and know the triggers which can be avoided
- Explain in clear words why something is not allowed, without raising your voice or showing anger.
- Sooth them when the little spitfires get overstimulated with soothing music or some quiet reading
- Channel his energy in a creative pursuit like so that he gets a healthy medium to express his feelings.
If your child is fearless spirit going headfirst into anything without a thought, you have an explorer with you! She might be the one trying out new experiences enthusiastically, confident of themselves and are most likely to become leaders. However, it is necessary to keep an eye out that they don't run into unsafe situations and hurt themselves accidentally.
How to deal:
- Give them additional responsibility and treat them like grown-ups. They will feel elated and empowered by the responsibility.
- Make exceptions to the rules, as explorers are made to work against rules, don't dampen the spirit by imposing rules on them unnecessarily.
- Let them rest, as the explore s always on the move and feel like they are missing out if they slow down or rest.
- Let them know that some things are not allowed as they are not safe. You might have a hard time keeping them from running in the road or cycling to fast. Be patient, they will learn by doing.
Even though it might be tempting to put the kids in the personality types, sometimes, they might say or do things which contradicts their personality types, and that is completely fine too. Recognizing patterns in your child's behavior and temperament can help you foresee your child's attitude to certain situations. However, human personalities are layered and your child can surprise you with their dynamic and ever-changing personality.
Understanding your child is one promising way to become successful in the art of parenting. Being a qualified parent is especially hard in this day and age when parents struggle to maintain a balance and end up giving more time working rather than being with their children. Spending quality time and trying to understand them will open up a whole world of possibilities for you and your child